Coping with your Role as Caregiver

This six letter word can be worse than any four letter word you have ever heard. Stress can affect your health and keep you from providing the best care for your family member. So, what do you do to keep healthy when there are so many stressful issues related to caring for your care receiver ?


  • Anger at elder, family, doctors, services
  • Withdrawal/feeling overwhelmed
  • Anxiety/constant worry
  • Depression/no pleasure in anything anymore
  • Exhaustion/sleeplessness
  • Worsening of chronic conditions
  • Irritability
  • Lack of concentration/disorganization
  • Change in appearance of caregiver or environment

Stress adversely affects health. It may be a gradual process or it can show immediately. Either way, it can cause serious health problems if not addressed. There are many ways to lessen stress. Experts say the following are the most effective:

What can caregivers do to prevent stress and burnout?

Keeping your health is one of the most important things you can do. If you don't take care of your own health, you will find it increasingly more difficult to take care of the health of the one you care for.The following information offers suggestions on how to stay healthy.

If you would like to meet new people, Senior Centers are excellent places to start. Get involved in community activities such as Senior Games or volunteer for your favorite charity. or contact your local Area Agency on Aging for Senior Center contact information.

A faith community may provide you with social interaction as well. Use your imagination and find the best match for you to help you keep engaged with others.

If you are disabled or if your mobility is limited, the computer can offer you a way to stay connected and to keep the ties to friends and family strong. Many Senior Centers have computers a vailable and provide instruction on their use. Public libraries also offer free computer access. Don't become isolated. Reach out.

Respite is the provision of temporary relief to family members and other primary caregivers caring for an impaired individual at home. It can be provided in a group setting, an individual setting or in a long term care facility.The availability of all three types of respite varies from county to county. Contact your local Area Agency on Aging to see what is available in your community.

Another type of respite is available under a different name - Adult Day Care and Adult Day Health. Your family member would attend such a program and have supervision that has been approved by the state to meet certain standards of care.

If you belong to a faith community, it is also worthwhile to check within to see what is offered to members. Assistance, including volunteer friendly visiting, may be available on either a sustained or temporary basis.

Don't forget family and friends if you need help. Ask for help if you need it. Often, people are more than happy to help but would never ask for fear of offending you. Sometimes, they just don't know what to offer. Ask. You may be able to get the respite you need.

If you are able to arrange respite, take the time for you. Relax. Have fun. Do something different and totally to pamper you. Even a short respite of a few hours can do wonders for your mental health and state-of-mind. You will return refreshed and more ready to face the challenges of caregiving.

Facts about caring for someone with Alzheimer's Disease or Dementia
If your family member has Alzheimer's Disease and/or dementia, your caregiver stress will be compounded. Please take careful note of the resources above. It is especially important for you to take care of yourself. This disease is devastating to both the individual affected and the caregiver.